I’ve had an interest in this pursuit since November of 2004. I was in a yahoo chat room (interacial dating) passing the time. A woman entered the room and began to post a request: that a man message her and tell her what to do, to control her.
My first reaction to this was, that this woman was a bot so I IM’ed her not expecting much more than an automatic response with a website attached to it. After a few more specific questions however I came to learn she was in fact real. I use the term “real” to mean this was an actual person that I was conversing with. I learned what it was that she desired. She desired to be controlled, to be used,humiliated, all on the whim of her owner. I
learned that she described herself as a pain-slut, who thrived on the physical sensation of pain. She would clamp her nipples with close pins, use a wooden spoon, or frozen hot dog to fuck herself with, and almost always had a butt plug and a nine volt battery taped to her clitoris. For her, it was a constant ever-present reminder of both her servitude and humiliation. As was introduced to her by her owner.
She was under orders to find someone to take control of her, to use her while he was away.
Intrigued I asked her many questions, all of which she answered without hesitancy, it was because of her answers that I was able to learn about her situation, about what turned her on, and about her as a person. All of these things aided in my Dominance over her. I truly feel that it was because I chose to get to know her that I was effective. So effective that she sought me out the following evening and on a somewhat regular basis thereafter.
As time passed I learned about her limits, mainly that while she desired to serve
first above all else, and that her desire to be treated like a pain slut was to be kept discrete. I also insisted that she not do anything that would compromise her health. When she misbehaved I ordered her to spank herself with a wooden spoon which she did without hesitation. The most severe punishment I can recall giving her was ordering her to remove any and all things attached to her for one weekend, to sleep completely bare, stripped. While most submissive women may not see this as a punishment, to her it was unthinkable it brought her to tears, she begged for an alternative. I stood firm and did not retract the order. It was then that I learned that stripping a submissive of what she enjoys is just as effective a punishment as spanking.
Sometime afterward, she disappeared without notice.
Time passed and on a lark, contacted her. I learned the reason for her disappearance was due
to a nervous brake down she, and her daughter suffered when her daughter walked in on her
masturbating while wearing all of her pain causing devices. Her dark secret was exposed. When she returned and told me, I didn’t become angry or insist on ordering her around, we simply chatted. It soon reached a point where she wanted me to control her again. Much to the shock and outrage of her Owner.
Not long afterwards she informed me that she was to be literally sold into the service of a new Master.
It was her wish for me to continue pursuing BDSM with the goal of going real time.
Since that time I’ve met many submissive women onnline Each with their own unique desires, hard limits, turn ons and quarks. I’ve also in that time have graduated to phone Dominance, and for me, this adds another dimension. Hearing a submissive females’ voice go breathless and moan with pleasure as she follows my instructions is what gives me my pleasure it also reinforces my belief that a strong mental image does have an effect on the body.
The above was posted originally on my Alt.com profile a few years ago. I thought ti seemed appropriate to repost here on my own site. Much has happened since then, I’ve had the forturne of coming acrossing and meeing many interesting people into BDSM. I’ve share my thoughts and given advice to many, affecting them in a positive way. Were it not for their encouragement I would not have have the motivation to start this site. Its my aim to continue to share my thoughts, theories, and advice with those who seek it.
– Sir Chance, August 1, 2010
– Edit: September 28, 2014: I no longer have a profile on Alt.com
