BDSM Advice

Allow me to introduce myself.

For the purpose of being somewhat anonymous I shall introduce myself as “Sir Chance”.

I am a (as of this writing) thirty six year-old Dominant Hispanic Male from Long Island, New York. I have been involved with BDSM in various capacities for over nine years.

I carry myself differently from other Dominants. While All Dominants should treat the submissive they are with, with respect. I am not one that likes to use force when it is not necessary. As such I am not by nature a sadistic individual.

 I strongly feel that sensuality, arousal, and stimulation start in the mind first, then the body. Or as I prefer to say, “Capture the mind, control the body”.

One thing I feel is most important with a submissive becoming comfortable with her role is knowing what she likes, what she’d like to try and what doesn’t interest her at all. All of these things can be learned through discussion. An ideal D/s relationship in my opinion should be a symbiotic one. For some basic insight on BDSM, I suggest reading read the article on BDSM at Wikipedia. I am not a man who makes demands of someone from the onset, submission like friendship is something that is earned and grows with time.

 My goal with this site is to share my thoughts and opinions with those who seek it. Those who are curious of and/or just starting out in BDSM. Weather they be submissive, Dominant or switch.

Keep in mind however that I can only speak for myself. Also keep in mind that my experience is within the realm Dominance over submissive women. I am not bi-sexual, nor am I bi-curious therefore I what I can offer in respect to male submission is somewhat limited.

 Outside of the BDSM world, I’m into art, drawing, panting, science fiction, film and movies, creative writing; playing pool, drinking martinis and singing badly to karaoke.

 In closing I would like to thank each and every visitor and look forward to converse with each of you.

 – Sir Chance.