Attraction: An absolute factor.

One of the most important factors in starting and establishing a relationship is attraction.

This encompasses mental, personality and yes, physical attraction.

This posting is a follow up to one of my previous posts (42 year old frustrated submissive).

In a pleasant surprise, I did receive a reply to my response on this posting. She had received many “ridiculous” and “rude” replies mine seemed to her the most sensible.

Over a period of a couple weeks over email I’ve come to learn that she has had good reason to become frustrated in her search for a Dominant ideal for her. Both of the Dominant (men) she had come into contact with were married and and lived a considerable distance from her. One of the men who she had strongly intellectual connection with seemed to be a good match for her. That is until they met in person; she found that she had no physical attraction to him despite having a intellectual/mental attraction to this person.

Keep in mind that one’s attractiveness to another is and will always be subjective. It is something both unique to the individual and something deeply embedded into the human survival instinct.

Eventually, our email conversations progressed into a phone conversations. During one conversation I emailed her a couple of pictures of myself as we were discussing the topic of attraction. The phone conversation progressed into a phone session that, I’m pleased to say resulted in her having two “intense” orgasms.

The next morning I received an email from her with a response on the photos I sent her. According to her she writes that while I am handsome (in her eyes, remember attraction is subjective) it would be difficult for her to think of me in a sexual way because I appear so young for my age (thirty) and that I reminder her of her older son. While she did say that she would like to remain in contact (and I did reply that I would like to keep in touch), we haven’t been in touch since my photos were seen.

While its disappointing that contact will no longer seem likely due to the fact that in her eyes I am no longer attractive. It is something that is completely understandable. Besides, it could have gone the other way, I could have received photos of her and found her personally unattractive.

While this does sting a bit for both us, finding out in this manner, through online exchange is preferable to meeting in person and finding out that there is no attraction there leading to an awkward and potentially painful evening.

Each and every one of is is drawn to what attracts us, we owe it to ourselves to seek that out in the hope that we can claim it, and cherish it.

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