Phone-sex: the power of one’s voice: control, direction and care.

All relationships, kinky or otherwise need a mutual rapport to progress.

This can be difficult in cases where distance is a significant factor.

Many people who come online in search of a partner will at one point or another engage in a form of online role-play, or sex chat. Weather it be text based in the form of a private conversation in an IM box, or on the phone. The majority of those people who engage in this kind of conversational role-play will choose the former out of safety relative anonymity.

That being some some people who are bold, or feel comfortable with a person over a period of time, or both will choose the later. Whenever possible I prefer talking on the phone then just typing. When speaking to someone its easier to pay attention, and notice things like nervousness, or pleasure.

Plus there’s an intimacy in hearing one another’s voice as the conversation shifts from topic to topic and eventually leads to the arousal of the mind and body.

Of course the quality of a text-based or phone-sex session depends on how well those involved gel with one another. For example, if one person is a lousy typist, and uses “net-speak” instead of proper sentences, or does not take time to build up a scene, it can really turn one off. This is also true for those that get on the phone an do not say anything. While the former really can’t be helped, the later can be. As a Dominant, its up to me to “feel out” the submissive, and provide reassurance, and praise, while coxing her into revealing herself, her desires and following my instructions.

I’m fortunate to have occasional phone sex sessions with a good friend of mine. A Georgia state based submissive, prettyinpink who I’ve known for close to seven years. We enjoy our conversations and sessions when we can have them. We get along with one another very well and I dare say that she and I could make a fantastic pair, if only distance wasn’t a factor.

That being said, we enjoy what we can of one another when we can.

Part of what makes the phone-sex between pretty and I so enjoyable is that it is something that simply flows, its a gradual steady progression. Our conversations rarely start in on the act of phone-sex it self. She and our discuss our frustration in frustrations in being unable to find suitable local partners. Or I’ll listen to a story she has about a recent dance performance. These details in addition to my long friendship add to the intimacy of the act. I get a sense for when she’s ready by subtle shift in her voice, or a pause before speaking with a purr to her voice, In her voice I can sense that she is comfortable, relaxed, and susceptible. By susceptible, I mean that she is very receptive to suggestion that borders on the hypnotic. It is something that she is aware of and embraces when she and I have our phone sessions. Once she’s in this state she becomes extra sensitive. It helps a great deal that (so I’ve been told) I have a soothing voice.

As for me, I’m in a state of heightened focus my eyes are generally closed for the entire session as I lay on my bed in a pitch black room. I have my phone face down and wear a pair of head phones. Its a form of selective sensory deprivation that I employ on myself for the purpose of staying focused on what I am doing, its also how I visualize what she is experiencing. Thankfully as I have pretty good knowledge of her body this is easy to do. while carefully listening for any cues in pretty’s voice as she carries out the instructions I give her. This includes running her fingertips all around her body, to fondling her breasts to pressing her hands onto her clit as she works her hips as I instruct. Because we’ve known each other for as long as we have, and have had many phone sessions as a result, Pretty is in total submission, slave to the sound of my voice as her body reacts accordingly, without any hesitation. Gone are the days where I would need to explain what I wished to have her do, and go about how it is to be done, gone are the days of initial awkwardness, where I would need to ask her occasionally if she was comfortable, feeling okay.. etc. To know if she well, or if she wanted more of something, I need only listen to her. The way she breathes, the pauses before she speaks in response to the questions I ask her, when conditions are right, Pretty slips into sub-space. Its a frame of mind where she is highly aroused, highly sensitive, and completely indulgent on any sensation of pleasure she feels. This is also the point where she is near climax as her voice changes to little more then the aroused purrs and “mmm’s” of a woman who is in the throws of ecstasy, When I finally give the word, she climaxes, not just once though, that wouldn’t do for her. Once she climaxes once, she’s able to climax continually so long as I continue to tell her to do so.

As I listen to her, I imagine her body glowing, her hair whipping around as she tosses her head as she gasps in climax. After the third or fourth climax she tells me she wants me to climax with her, by this point in the conversation, my hips swat and rock of their own accord, the tip of my member moist, the shaft warm. When we reach this point we feel close to one another, as close as each of us can be given the distance. We climax together, though this isn’t the end of it. Pretty is still very much, highly aroused and could very much continue climaxing until passing out. I do my best to look out for her not ending the phone conversation until I’m convinced she is calm and relaxed. This is accomplished simply by talking, just talking complimenting her, thanking her, just making sure she is becomes calm. She may still be aroused, and often is, but the point is to get calm enough to where she won’t accidentally harm her herself.

Coincidentally, Pretty ends up sleeping very well, which to me is a sign of a job well done.

If you’re reading this Pretty, please feel free to add anything.

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  1. Pam

    Hello my dear friend Sir Chance. First let me say how much I have missed you. I love this entry. As being one who has had the pleasure of phone sex with you, this is very well written. I would love to have more sessions with you. I so miss talking with you. I hope all is well with you.

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