So you know you’re kinky, but not sure what you may like? Make a list, write a journal.

Make a list you say? It may sound silly, but the act of writing something down, (or typing it) gets the mind going. Making a list of fetishes is a good step to take for anyone who isn’t sure what they may or may not like. There are many different things one can explore, its a good to have some idea. In my opinion a list provides a sense of direction.

An easy way to start would be to start with activities that turn you (the list writer) on, things that you know you enjoy and want to experience.

Then, proceed to a second list of things that turn you off, this can include deal-breakers and Hard limits. Hard limits are things that you simply are not into and would not entertain in any sense. A total turn off.

There is also a third list to consider making. This list is of things that you are curious of, that you would like to try at least once to experience.

For those starting out its not important to have experienced these things beforehand, Its enough that there is either an interest or aversion to any particular fetish or activity. That it is noted in some form for both reference and clarity. For those that do have experience, the list can serve as a reminder and treated like a checklist.

The majority of BDSM community websites have fetish checklists that can be managed along with a profile, this helps to determine comparability.

Sometimes it also helps to write a journal about one’s needs and desires, or short stores about one’s desire, or an exploration of a fetish. Doing either helps to expend on the idea, by exploring it on the cerebral level. Personally, I enjoy a good journal, or story, a good mind trip generates interest in my book.

Sharing the lists, the journals, and the short stories can lead to discussion and perhaps pursuit down the line.

I’d like to share a series of short lists of my own with you.

Into/turn ons:

Women who wear lingerie

Tall brunettes

Women who like to dress up and pose in costumes.

Not into/turn offs/ Hard limits:

Cross-dressing

Diaper play

Breath play (asphyxiation, choking)

As for writing short stories, I’ve only written on piece of erotic that explains a long held though still (to this date), unrealized.

And as for a journal… well there’s this blog.

Until next time,

Sir Chance.

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