The Melancholy of “Blondie Howe”

Every once in awhile I come across a profile of someone I find interesting and I will right in the hopes of making a connection. earlier tonight, I came across a profile of a submissive woman who in her profile has doubts of having recently joined an online BDSM community. It should be noted that from what I’ve observed any woman who newly joins this community (as well as women in general I expect) are to put it politely, aggressively pursued.

Generally I am the type to offer advice where I feel its needed. Rather than see some one give up because of some overly-aggressive and overtly desperate “Dominant” make a bad impression that leads to a misrepresentation of a group as a whole; I sent her the following letter which is shown below, which has been edited only for the sake of  discretion.

Good morning Blondie.

First as you probably receive pages upon pages of emails, I wish to thank you in advance for reading mine. While you current and understandably find this initial experience to be frustrating based on what you’ve mentioned in your profile I do not believe you should give up so easily.

Yes there are many starving wolves here, and yes, there are many who use the title of “Dom” or “Master” to intimidate rather than instruct.

With that in mind I’d like to make a few suggestions that may help you.

1. Clearly define what you’re looking for in a relationship/partner.
2. Clearly define what your interests and limits are and be firm. Just because you are a submissive does not mean that you are to be treated like a doormat.
3. If something doesn’t feel right to you, trust your intuition and move on, if necessary block the offending person.
4. use the mail filtering system to limit contact from those out of state, out of the country and so on.
5. Never be afraid to speak your mind or ask any question you may have with a potential Dominant, if you’re going to meet someone even before submission you must feel comfortable enough to build some level of trust. Your submission is a gift and should not be taken lightly by anyone.

I do hope that this helps you in somewhat. If you decide you would like to ask more questions of me, please feel free to do so by reply to this message. I hope to hear from you, if not I wish you well on your search. Don’t give up just yet, nothing worthwhile is easy to obtain.

Best wishes. Sir Chance

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