At the spur of the moment, TES.

Last night (June 30th), was my first TES meeting. It was something that I had decided upon at the last minute as the E train I was on arrived at Penn Station. The lecture started at 7:30, I ad arrived nearly an hour later. My first realization upon setting foot in the room is, because I live in Long Island, I will never be able to attend a lecture/meeting of TES on time.

As with most things BDSM related, my proximity prevents me from becoming a part of (even passively) the BDSM community in real time. Some would argue that I should simply join a Long Island, based community; if I had a car this would be possible, but alas I do not. For now I am content with my modicum existence online with my web blog and a few online BDSM communities.

It should be noted that this entry will appear in each sector.

The following is a person opinion formed based on my impression of the atmosphere, as a first-time attendee to a TES lecture/function. This is in no way meant to offend any organization or individual; though I fully expect that there will be some reaction by those who read this from wherever this is read.

My reason for deciding to attend this lecture at the spur of the moment was the topic: Menacing and how to be effective at it. Note, this is not the actual title of the lecture. After finding the location (with a well timed, polite help); I arrived in the middle of a demonstration in which a young woman who’s back was figuratively against a wall (it was actually a pipe). The instructor controlled his tone of voice, his pace, and most importantly in my mind, his proximity to the intimidated and fearful subject.

The instructor goes on to speak about key factors such as proximity, body language, size differential and most importantly (in my mind) emotion, all of which contribute to perception of menace and the creation of a menacing atmosphere. The mentioning of arc-type menacing characters such as “The Joker”, “Hannibal Lecter”, and Jason Vorrhees” among others; can be used to invoke a persona of the of the menacing character to being within the Dom/Top and evoke a sense of impending menace in the sub/bottom.

Much of what followed were more demonstrations of the topic factors mentioned in action. I and I would guess many others enjoy the lecture as it was very informative, entertaining and enlightening. As many of the traditional accepted power exchange roles, for example: student/teacher, police officer/motorist, old man/young girl ect.. can be reversed using leverage to generate what I call “uncommon menace”.

Once the lecture ended and the “circle of discussion” began the atmosphere had changed. The foremost topic of discussion was the current state of TES. From what I’ve observed, TES is an organization who’s influence is waning as time passes. Its my understanding that that at one point in time many years ago TES was at the vanguard of the BDSM community.

What I witnessed last night is an organization with a long, established and proud history struggling to find its defining identity and focus in a landscape that is populated with numerous other groups that have dedicated niches who’s members are thus more focused and passionate about their chosen niche. While it has been said during this discussion that TES is an umbrella organization in which other niche-focused factions can join under for the genera shared betterment of the alternative lifestyles, what I observed is not the case.

It is my opinion that the fatal-flaw of individuals or groups that try to encompass everyone is the stress that comes with task of attempting to please everyone. What often happens is, not everyone will be completely satisfied despite the best efforts of all involved. This dissatisfaction is the catalyst that leads to the creation of smaller, more focused niche communities all with their own goals and direction.

In order for TES to thrive under these conditions it must find it’s strength, it’s niche and lead forward with it. In my mind, that is education. TES consistently offer classes, and workshops which are invaluable for all people within the community at large. While TES does have a social media presence it must be fostered. However, that can only be done once a clear focus is reached by the leadership, and then its members. The process of restructuring is one full of changes, it must be done to ensure both progression and survival.

It is my hope that this group can adapt, overcome and thrive in the near future and the years to come.

Edit: July 4th 243AM eastern. For those of you who would like to more about TES – The Eulenspiegel Society and would like to possibly help, here  is their website: http://www.tes.org/

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