I am neither sub, nor switch. I will not be swayed.

An hour or so before this posting as written, I had a conversation with young woman who art first seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me, though she seemed very eager. She immediately wanted to know if I was single, or not. This is a fair question so I answered. Almost immediately she wanted to see me on the web-cam. Now this is something I don’t usually show myself as once I do, either disinterest sets in quickly, or the conversation degenerates into a request for an exhibition.

After some thick flattery from her the conversation degenerated.

 she got particularly aggressive after I shared with her that I am into BDSM. Thinking that because I was into it, that she could Dominate me. I quickly stated that I was neither submissive, nor a switch, and yet she persisted in asking me to expose myself. After my refusal to do so, she said the following:

 hoooters: how can you be into domination if you wont even fit the role?

 Myself: There are three types of people when it comes to this sort of thing.

Those who enjoy control, those who enjoy being controlled, and those who can switch between the two.

 hoooters: what does that have to do with me seeing your briefs one moment???

 Myself: I enjoy being in control. However its not something I use blatantly. Its not something I impose on some one.

 hoooters: are you shy to let me see because your cock is so soft and i wont see any bulge in your briefs?

 Myself: As I said, its not something I do on camera.

 hoooters: ok then you catholic boys are all the same – bye

 Myself: I’m an Atheist thank you. The sad thing is, the conversation was going fine until you got greedy. But ultimately because of our differences, it would not have worked out. You have a goodnight.

Keep in mind that I haven’t asked her to expose herself, or even show herself on camera, though I doubt she had one, or would make an excuse not to show herself. Personally the flattery and the aggression she then showed was a means to an end. Now it may be that she will succeed in finding someone to expose themselves and perhaps go even further, and if so, its because they want to. Not because they goaded into it. My intent with this posting is not to criticize her for wanting to be Dominant, but for not understanding or better yet, refusing to respect one’s limits.

 To those of you who are discovering this side of your sexuality, do not, no matter what your role, given into demands that force you to compromise yourself.

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