Being A Dominant does not give one license to be a self-serving prick.

There are times when I come across men (and women) who feel that to a Dominant one has to force their will or impose themselves onto an other. Men (and women) who are openly condescending, and at times blatantly aggressive. In acting this way, these Dominants sometimes address themselves the title of “Master” (or Mistress), and expect those who are submissive, (or submissive-curious), to address them as such.

While those experienced with such “Dominants” can brush them aside easily, such people can be very toxic to someone who is completely new to the to the idea of submission. Its often said that a person’s first experience can shape perception. Many people, men and women alike have been turned off to exploring this side of their sexuality because of such predatory people.

While its good for a Dominant to be confident and have an Alpha-aggressive manner, its not good to be that way from the very onset of meeting someone. I suppose being nearly anonymous allows some to have a more inflated sense of bravado, or daring than one would then in a face to face setting.

My feeling is that no matter what status one has, or gives themselves, people should treat one another with a modicum of mutual respect. I feel it is part of the responsibility of the Dominant to teach, to guide to build trust. One’s submission is a gift that shouldn’t be taken lightly, or for granted.

Kindness, understanding and patience should not be seen as signs of weaknesses, but as signs of strength and integrity.

To any new submissive who come comes across such people, trust your intuition, do not be afraid to ask questions or to stand up for yourself. Seek out information from other sources. Learn for yourself, and do right for yourself before giving yourself to anyone until it is earned.

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