The users and the used: An opinion on how the selfish-aggressive, the self-objectified and the predator/prey dynamic has warped the current perception of BDSM.

First I want to stress that this, like many of my posts is my opinion, based on observation. My opinion on the nature of the D/s relationship dynamic has always been that this, (or any kind) of relationship should be a symbiotic one. That the two, a Dominant, and a submissive are each halves of …

The perception of age, and its weight in D/s relationships. A response to an posting, my own thoughts.

Earlier this evening, I came across a posting written by a female submissive. She desires to form a long term relationship with a Dominant man. Yet she is discouraged from the postings from men seeking women younger than she is. So she wrote a post question why this is. Her Original Posting:   dom/sub question …

Submissive exhibitionist: Public face, private desires.

Recently I’ve had the pleasure of meeting, and establishing a friendship with Janice. A married woman, who describes her marriage as “vanilla”. Raised in an Irish Catholic, military family, Janice had a structured “moral” upbringing. She’s also a very intelligent and capable woman, having been on her own (until marriage of course) since the age …